Five Ways to Keep the Romance Alive When Time is Tight

As you can imagine by my sporadic posting schedule, things are still a bit hectic for us right now. The end of the school year is upon us, wrap up events are happening in the evening, the JA has returned to grad classes for his summer session and, well, we kind of want to spend time with each other without one of us using an electronic device. (Easier said than done, my friends.)

However, in these crazy times, we’ve found a few ways to keep our relationship steady without having either one of us feel neglected.

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1. Spend some time apart. This may seem counterintuitive, but when I’m stressed I get cranky. No one likes a cranky partner. By taking time to ourselves – whether it be at the gym, a happy hour with friends, Book Club, or a run – we can get all our negativity out of our system before unleashing it on the other person. Makes for more quality time AND a happier couple.

2. Make time for each other. Even when the JA has an incredibly long day, he does his best to at least take five minutes to sit with me and chat about his day. It’s not much, but it’s better than him just entering the house, kissing me on the cheek and heading straight to bed. Communication is integral to any successful relationship, so by setting aside even a little bit of time just for your partner, it can go a long way in making them feel important.

3. Laugh. During busy times, tension can run high. To paraphrase the cinematic classic (Legally Blonde), “Happy people just don’t kill their husbands.” By diffusing this tension, you not only are producing endorphins to increase your own mood, but you’re making memories with each other and bonding through giggles.

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4. Chat it up. I mentioned this before, but when we feel like we’re on opposite schedules we up our communication. Texting, email and quick visits at work help reinforce the foundation of love we’ve already built. A simple, ‘I miss you’ or ‘Hope you’re having a good day’ can make a big difference in getting you through until you can spend some face time with each other.

5. Small gestures/gifts. Everything from making the bed to sending a bunch of flowers to work let’s your loved one know that you’re thinking of them. Having the knowledge that the other person in your relationship cares enough to take time out of their day to do something for you puts a smile on your face and helps ease the pain of their absence.

How do you and your partner keep the connection strong when time is tight?

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Friday Five: Not My Birthday Edition

If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, you know that the JA had a birthday this week – the big 2-9! He’s not big into celebrating his birthday (which is good, because I usually require at least a few days for mine), but being that he’s so darn special to so many people we had to commemorate the day somehow!

Here are the highlights:

1.  Snow Day – We woke up to school being cancelled due to an ice storm. Back to bed for the birthday boy!

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2. Food – What’s a birthday without a little indulgence? We went out to lunch with co-workers and then made plans for dinner, a movie, and dessert later on in the evening. It’s all about balance!

3. Presents – With his birthday and Valentine’s day so close together, I kept it a little low key. A funny card, a nerdy tie, a Ravens tumbler and some coffee were all that he needed to make the day special.

His response to the tie: "Oh look, it's all precipitation reactions - how cool!"

His response to the tie: “Oh look, it’s all precipitation reactions – how cool!”

4. Getting carded – Ok, so this isn’t so much for him. I got carded TWICE in about five minutes time – once at the movie theater and once at the bar. That never happens. I felt like a 21 year-old all over again. (Only with a lot more stability in my life.)

5. Special Delivery – The JA has recently started to like veggie burgers as a quick dinner option. I was offered the opportunity to try  Sunshine Burgers, and immediately jumped at the chance. The package arrived on Wednesday and the JA’s eyes lit up with joy when he saw all the new flavors to try. Stay tuned for a full review (and probably a recipe or two)!

I think we're set, bud. No need to go & grab more!

I think we’re set, bud. No need to go & grab more!

Cheers to a great weekend!

What’s your favorite way to celebrate birthdays? A big outing? An evening in? Any birthday traditions? We always get together for a family dinner. Birthday person chooses the menu 🙂

Friday Five: Excitement

The JA will be on a trip for most of the weekend and, let’s be honest, when he’s away it gives me free rein to do whatever I want (insert evil laugh here). Here are some things that I’m looking forward to doing while he’s out of town (in no particular order):

1. Watching girly tv shows/documentaries. I realized this morning that I forgot to cancel our trial of Amazon Prime, so we’re stuck with it for a year. Add that to our recent addition of an Apple TV and I may or may not be found on the couch for the majority of my free time this weekend.

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2. Hogging the bed. Truth: when the JA gets out of bed in the morning, I slowly stretch out and take over his side. It might be the time where I get my best sleep…but don’t tell him that. He already thinks my goal is to take all the covers while simultaneously booting him off the side of the bed.

click image for source (or at least where I found it)

click image for source (or at least where I found it)

3. Attending a wedding. But not just ANY wedding…stay tuned for more details on Monday.

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4. Meg’s Miles. I’m taking a (semi) rest day so my legs can be fresh for tomorrow’s run. I’m dedicating my mileage tomorrow to Meg Menzies who was killed by a drunk driver while on her Monday morning run. Be safe out there, friends. (For more information and to participate, click here.)

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5. Lots of snuggles with this guy. He started his heart worm treatment this week and so we’re trying to give him a bit of extra lovin’ to lessen the fact that we can’t play as much anymore. It’s a tough job, but I guess I can make it happen.

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What do you enjoy doing when you’re home alone? (Keep it family friendly, please.)